Advice for men married to or having relationships with PMZ wenches

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Ask Dr. Betty Polston, the Midlife Relationships Expert

To Perform or Not to Perform
Dear Dr. Betty,My wife and I have been happily married for 21 years. We generally have sex two or three times a week, but she recently told me that she'd like to have more amorous encounters. For the last couple of weeks we've had sex four or five times a week. Half the time it was great, but the other half I wasn't really into it. I really don't like the "have to perform" feeling, but I don't want to disappoint my wife either--what should I do? --T.Dear T.,With her sexual appetite increasing, your wife may be experiencing what anthropologist Margaret Mead called PMZ (post menopausal zest)--a feeling of renewed vigor and a general adventurousness that filters through every area of her life. Many women report that sex in their midlife years is the best ever. However, you don't need to perform yourself to exhaustion. Beware of tumbling into a state of performance anxiety where you might avoid sex altogether and experience lowered self esteem; this could threaten your loving relationship. There's no need to disappoint anyone here--especially yourself. Why not engage in the kind of sex that can please both of you? More is not necessarily better, so think about going back to two or three times a week, but hype up those "sexperiences."First, let foreplay begin in the morning. Foreplay can be all the thoughtful and tender things you do through the day to get in the mood for physical and emotional closeness, such as a kiss and loving touch at breakfast or a call, fax, or email during the day. During sex, introduce some new elements: relate mutual fantasies and consider acting them out; give each other erotic massages; watch X-rated videos; experiment with new positions in different places in your home; dress up in costumes; tell each other sexy jokes (humor during sex is an aphrodisiac); and very importantly, tell each other what you like, where you like it, and how you like it done. Know that midlife sexual relationships flourish with creativity, tenderness, experimentation, and communication.